Cinderella Ate My Daughter
Peggy Orenstein

Reflection/Quotes

Looking back to my childhood, I did play with barbie dolls and American girl dolls. I watched Disney Princess Movies and I loved watching the happy endings. I do not regret playing with all of these toys because it conjures memories of spending time with my sisters and friends. Despite that, I hate what these toys and movies can teach young children, especially young girls.
This chapter was so thought provoking. One thought I had was that that I never had a favorite princess, I thought it was strange that I did not. Now I believe it had a positive impact on my life. Tinkerbell was my favorite and still is now. Her spunky wings, her simple green outfit, her ability to fly was fascinating, and her lack of make up. I made fairy houses and wore fairy costumes. I pretended that I could fly. I did not want a dress or make up to have fun, it seemed unnecessary to my young eyes. I always felt weighted down. How could a fairy fly if she felt weighted down?

 While reading this section I thought how in Tinkerbell world, Pixie Hollow all fairies have some kind of power that makes all of them equal. Tinkerbell has the power of creating items that benefit the land of Pixie Hallow, her friend of water has power to control the water. Another one of her friends has a power to help and heal animals. It is a world where no one is better than one another instead its a place where people work together. It is fantasy but there are places in reality that are like this. For example, The Dancin Feeling. This studio operates because there are 9 Ballroom instructors and two assistants that make the studio a success. The co owners, Kathy and Randy cannot operate this studio without the help of the other instructors and assistants. In the world of a princess, they would not allow a place like the Dancing Feelin to operate the way it does because there can only be one princess so there could only be one dance instructor.

Orenstein explains a story of picking up her daughter from preschool, when her daughter has learned that only one princess is allowed per land. "Daisy had only one fight with her best friend during their three years of preschool- a conflict so devastating that, at pick up time, I found the other girl sobbing in the hallway? My darling daughter had insisted that there could only be one Cinderella in their games-only one girl who reigned supreme." "Princesses may confide in a

sympathetic mouse or teacup, but at least among the best-known stories, they do not have girlfriends." In all of the movies, the people work for the royal princess as "she rules the land." The rules are; men work outside the home while the women clean, cook and care for the children. Young boys play until dark while girls play with their dolls inside, making them look pretty and attractive. When you see they princess she has make up on, their hair is styled just "right", they are wearing fancy long gowns with matching heels and they have make up on. It would not be socially accepted for a princess to be seen in yoga pants, t- shirt, and sweatshirt without any make up on. Princesses would not be seen in a movie like that so a young girl who plays with Disney dolls would not imagine a day without make up or dresses while playing dress up.

Once I was old enough to play with American Girl dolls, I was given Kit Kittredge for my birthday. I can remember the excitement I felt once I ripped apart of the wrapping paper on my birthday. She came in her "Meet Kit Outfit". I had such fun bringing her to life as I played with her alongside my sisters and their dolls, Addy and Molly. Our parents told all three of us how special it was to have an American Girl doll so we had to treasure it. At the time I was scared to find out what would happen if we did not care for them so I treated my doll like it was just like my favorite stuffed animal. I would always make sure Kit would be in a safe spot while I was not with her. I kept her dressed and my mom would help me organize all of her all outfits and extras she came with. 

 Receiving these pieces of Kit's "life" was a big deal as we did collect all of them as they were so expensive. I remember I had the her lunch set, her bed, her school supplies, a holiday outfit, her typewriter set, and possibly the table and chairs. I do remember reading the stories that came with her, I was fascinated that my doll was from an historic era. Kit grew up during the thirties, during the depression. She learned how appreciate life and what her family had. Kit even went out to find a way to help her family during the difficult time. I knew Kit was a doll but I remember treating them with more respect than barbie dolls. American Girl may not be any better than Barbie, despite that I am not sure it affected me like is has other girls. Orenstein brings up a fact that relates to my thoughts on American Girl, "The dolls are eighteen inches high with notably realistic, childlike proportions, no barbie bosoms here." Orenstein seems respect the doll in the sense that they do not look like adults, it shows children that Kit, Addy, Molly and Kristen are young and that being young is an important fun time of everyone's life. She touches on that this dolls literally have a story, "Their worlds can be re-created with astonishingly detailed period clothing, furniture, and other paraphernalia.

The kit for Kit, a Depression ear girl who dreams of being a journalist, includes a miniature "reporter she lived through the depression. She was forced to move to the attic because her parents had to rent her room out to another family so they could survive during that ruff time. I was able to appreciate the Kit extras I had because I only a few items that belonged to Kit. Orenstein said "the creator of American Girl said she wanted her dolls to offer an alternative, normally inspiring vision of girlhood, one that would, in the process, express her own passion for history." 

set" with an authentic looking leather bound notebook, tiny pencil, and eraser; a period camera and a stack of newspapers, tied with twine, showing her byline splashed across the front page." I think if each American Girl doll had a little less tangible items it might hold a more powerful statement. I personally did not have all of the team Kit had, I believe that was important. Kit did not have a lot growing up as

Orenstein seemed worried to open this world to her daughter. However, she did say "Reading the books, though, I was struck by their representation of the past as a time not only in which girls were improbably independent, feisty, and apparently without constraint but, in a certain way, in which they were more free than they are today." I do not balme her for worrying because showing the right image can be hard. She felt falling into the material world as she said " In fact, Kit, Addy,Molly, and their friends could never afford the dolls that represent them- an irony that became particularly piquant in fall 2009 with the introduction of Gwen, a $95 limited edition doll who was supposed to be homeless." When she was at the store with her daughter she felt distraught as she spent $500 dollars on one doll and the extra pieces. It is not giving her daughter the wrong image, these dolls should be showing the importance of being a kid, using what you have. These girls in their stories did not have a lot growing up. These dolls are falling short of showing young girls how to have fun as a child because it has become all about having everything that Kit has and if you have it at home. 

Final thoughts: we must be careful with how we are shown toys as young children as what we are taught young live with us after we walk into adulthood. Lessons that we learn can long lasting effects in more way than you think. 

Maps!

Map of all the readings!
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"Something About The Subject Makes It Hard to Name"
Yamato

Quotes

"The new mestiza copes by developing a tolerance for contradictions and tolerance for ambiguity. She learns to be an Indian in Mexican culture to be Mexican from an Anglo point of view."

This quote is stating that this woman is learning how to be a person from multiple heritages. She has composition of personality that is made of Indian, Mexican, and Anglo descent, her personality is not made of one descent. It has become such a contradiction because almost everyone on this planet did not come from one descent. My mom is part Italian, Irish, and American while my dad is part German and American so they are living a different life as these cultures differ. The way food is loved is very different in Italy and Ireland. However, it is not bad. All of these complexities are a good thing.

For example, think of all the people who traveled to Ellis Island to make a new start in life. They came from other countries so right away your heritage will not be a 100% the same, young person who traveled to Ellis Island may meet and marry someone once in america who is of different descent. That is not a taboo thing to do, variety is important as it makes the world go round.

"They'd like to think I have melted in the pot. But I haven't, we haven't. The dominant while culture is killing us slowly with its ignorance."

America was meant to be country where all nationalities were accepted and brought into the melting pot of many cultures and hertiatges. Despite that, the idea of a melting pot has not been encouraged as a positive idea while co existing with other clutures. This is because the white culture is ignorant. Ignorant means to be unaware, uneducated about a certain topic. The reality of America is more like a salad, what is not accepted or understood can be taken out like a piece of carrot or cucumber.

Ignorance can have multiple meanings as well. It can mean that someone is illiterate, if they are unaware of how to read and write they will miss out on how certain races are treated in school when children learn about their history. It could also stand for shallowness, someone without any care for the topic at hand. There may be some white people to this day that may not care for the rights and privileges of black people. They could be more focused on what is directly affecting them instead.



"Like others having or living in more than one culture, we get multiple , often opposing messages. The coming together of two self consistent but habitually incompatible frames of reference causes a cultural collision."

This is stating that the occurrence of more than one culture within a family is very common, and with that there are opposing messages seen that relates to the multiple cultures. These messages that are sent due to multiple cultures lead to a collision of cultures. This is not fair to anyone in any cultural situation. For example, look at the percentage of interracial families. Someone cannot be blamed for marrying someone of a different culture because culture should not come into play in marriage as much as it can. 58% of American Indians  married someone outside their culture, 28%of Asians chose to marry someone from a different culture, and 19% of the black community are married to another who is not of African American descent. Culture should not affect our world as much as it does, it is an important part of our life. Despite that we need to look at the group of people who seem different as human beings.

Final Thoughts: This brings up the question of acceptance, are we as a country inviting people with welcoming arms into this country? It is funny because America is considered the land of free, where all can make a life for themselves. How can we allow people that if we are not being accepting of them.

"Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence" by Adrienne Rich

                                  Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence 
                                                              By: Adrienne Rich


Rich believes that women are forced upon heterosexuality and that is reinforced by many social factors. "Biologically men have only one innate orientation- a sexual one that draws them to women- while women have two innate orientations, sexual toward men and reproductive toward their men."
What Rich is saying that women are meant to be attracted to men, that is an innate or natural factor within life. 

 This is not fair to any woman regardless of their belief. If men are allowed to do whatever they chose or believe women should be able to do the same. Unfortunately, women do not have that opportunity. We all see this at a young age, and we do not even realize it. For example, in movies such as Disney Movies. They have different characters, different settings but all have the same plot. The main character, the girl is in trouble in some way. The only way she can come to solution it includes a male character coming to their hand. In all movies of Disney Princess movies, you rarely see a female character coming to the rescue, it is always a man. 

Take the movie, Sleep Beauty for an example of women living by a man's word. King Stefan and his wife want a child, they end up with a daughter named Aurora. Instantly this innate attraction to men exists as Aurora is promised to Prince Phillip, the son of another Royal family near the land. Aurora is given 3 fairies, they all her a gift. When Merryweather tries to give her gift, Maleficent thunders in angrily throwing a curse on Aurora because she was not told or invited to meet Aurora. She declares that the princess will prick her finger on the spindle of a spinning wheel on her sixteenth birthday and die. She then disappears in a swirl of foul purple clouds. Merryweather can’t revoke the curse, but she changes the effect of the prick to a deep sleep instead of death, out of which the princess can be awakened by the kiss of true love. A distraught King Stefan orders a bonfire of all the spinning wheels in the kingdom, attempting to circumvent Maleficent’s powerful curse. Saddened, he also allows the three fairies to take Aurora away from the kingdom in order to protect her. To hide her, they will raise her without their magic, as mortal peasants. They rename her Briar Rose. The catch to the curse is that Aurora must be waken up by true loves kiss. It is not exactly stated that is it man but it is expected because you would not see another women kiss Aurora awake. Only women romantically interact with men. 

This "real" story of Sleeping Beauty is quite funny because Sleeping Beauty was orignially written by the Grimm Brothers. What wakes Aurora up is not a kiss but nudge from her child. She was impregnated while was unconscious. 

An opposing view made by Rossi, who believes that women are innately sexually oriented toward men. "That the lesbian choice is simply an acting out of bitterness toward men." Women are not social allowed to be lesbian, that is it not a choice.This is why all Disney Princesses end up with a prince at the end of the movie.  Merida, from Brave a Pixar production faces the same problem. Regardless of the intent, Merida stands out more than just a princess. 

The synopsis of Brave is quite refreshing in one respect. Merida is a part of a royal family within the realm of Scotland. She is an adventerous princess, who rides her horse all over the land, she is an skilled archer who loves the power of being independent. During a point in the movie she becomes upset because over dinner. Her mother reads a letter about 3 suitors from other royal families who will be taking part in adventurous tasks to win Merida's hand. Merida jumps from the table and leaps for a ride on her horse. She cannot imagine being fought for, sitting around waiting to see who will become her husband. I agree with the character's opinion. I never want to be fought for, that is not how you find your love. Even though Merida is meant to be married at the end of the movie just like all of the other princesses, she does not end up getting married. Merida fights for her freedom, her right to her life. How she wants to live her life, make the choices on her own.  

It is so depressing that the Disney Princesses come from Grim Stories. We re told that Disney owns the stories but Grimm made the original stories, Disney simply fluffed them up so they sound happy and cheery. 

Comments: Reality is not the kind of world we always want to be a part of. However, should we encourage our children to watch movies that teach us to wait for someone to save you, that it is okay for your daughter to expect a man will come to your rescue? I am not sure its right because form personal experiences, my knight in shining armor has been my best friend, my mom, my dad and most importantly, myself.

Visual Update to Land of Limitations

U.S.A. - Land of Limitations
Nicholas Kristof

Kristof felt that America is boasted as the "land of opportunity." Kristof does not believe that America gives us all opportunities. He said that "my friend, Rick Goff was smart, talented and hard working, but he faced an uphill struggle from birth. "Talent is universal, but opportunity is not."

Kristof believes that you are born into a social class and you are bound to that social class for your reminder living. Kristof friend, Rick experienced a less than fortunate life. His mom passed away when he was 5, and his dad was an alcoholic who abandoned the family. His grandmother took over the authority. He was not an excellent student in school so he ended up dropping out at 10th grade from a lack of support and drive.

I do not exactly agree a 100 percent because there are some exceptions to this idea. The site, People Like US that gives resources and stories of how people are affected by social class. One of the stories is about Charles Stoughton. He was raised in Chicago suburb of Lake forest. Charles was the third son of well known local surgeon. Charles is good looking, well spoken and spent his education at private schools. He was suppose to carry on the line of attending medical school within his family as his sister, and brothers had. Charles decided to drop out during his sophmore year at Stanford. He moved to Louisiana, where he worked on a shrimp boat. As time passed, he worked as a housepainter in the area. He lives in a double wide trailer with his wife, who works as a K mart chaser along with their three children. Due to his lack of a degree he only makes $25,000 and his parents do not visit.
Charles was born into a great family of wealth, popularity, and success.

Regardless, Charles was given a choice just like his other siblings. His brothers and sister chose to continue on the line of medical careers in the family while Charles gave up that life. He may have been exposed to a great life but it did not seem to strike his fancy. The whole of idea of being stuck in the same social class according to the "societal system" is not 100 percent valid. There is always an exception to the rules.

Diversity Week: Advocacy and Beyond

How would you define blindness?

Eye Opening Experience
Annual Fall Access Challenge

Sponsored by: Advocacy and Beyond Club, Sherlock Center and Disability Services Center

Visual impairment also known as vision loss, it is the decreased ability to see to a degree that causes issues that can not be solved by aids, such as glasses. Prior to this event, I did not know what being blind meant. I went to a conference geared to young people dealing with a disorder. I spoke with another delegate, who experienced visual problems. They said they see only what is right in front of them while everything else around them is unclear. Despite that explanation,
I was still confused.

My dance teacher suffers from astigmatism

What I learned today is that there are different levels of being blind. There are 4 levels of visual function. They are normal vision, moderate visual impairment, severe visual impairment and blindness according to the International Classification of Diseases.





What is so mind blogging is that the causes of visual impairment that is uncorrected refractive errors comprises 30% to 43%. An example of uncorrected refractive errors are myopia and astigmatism.  Myopia is when things that are close in sight are clear while things further away in distance are blurred. This occurs as the eyeball could be too long or the cornea may have an over abundance of curvature, the clear front cover of the eye. Another refractive error is astigmatism. It is a vision condition that creates blurred vision due to irregular shape of the cornea or the curvature of the lens inside the eye. This keeps the light from properly focusing on the retina that leads to blurred vision at all distances.

Looking at all of the technology that help people who lack some sort of vision put it into perspective. There are aids such as braille, walking canes, and verbal technology for computer use. For example, Kurzweil 1000, it is a software technology designated for people who are blind or visually impaired. register the text and read it aloud, take notes, summarizing the text. This brand is currently used within the Disability Center here at RIC, and I have been told such positive feedback about Kurzweil.

Imagine living in this world without a vision.

The system will

Of all of the assistive technology, I find braille as the most interesting. I learned that braille is formed within a unit of space called braille cells. The position of all of the dots are determined by the numbers, 1 through 6. To make a letter, you must type the right numbers on the braille applicator. To make a uppercase letter, a specific button must be pushed and then the corresponding numbers to the right letters. While watching braille letters formed by the expert, I was amazed because that is
how people with low vision communicate and
 do their work for school. It seemed like such a
process as a code that must
be decoded not a language.

Its better late, than never! U.S.A. Land of Limitations

U.S.A. - Land of Limitations
Nicholas Kristof

Kristof felt that America is boasted as the "land of opportunity." Kristof does not believe that America gives us all opportunities. He said that "my friend, Rick Goff was smart, talented and hard working, but he faced an uphill struggle from birth. "Talent is universal, but opportunity is not."

Kristof believes that you are born into a social class and you are bound to that social class for your reminder living. Kristof friend, Rick experienced a less than fortunate life. His mom passed away when he was 5, and his dad was an alcoholic who abandoned the family. His grandmother took over the authority. He was not an excellent student in school so he ended up dropping out at 10th grade from a lack of support and drive.

I do not exactly agree a 100 percent because there are some exceptions to this idea. The site, People Like US that gives resources and stories of how people are affected by social class. One of the stories is about Charles Stoughton. He was raised in Chicago suburb of Lake forest. Charles was the third son of well known local surgeon. Charles is good looking, well spoken and spent his education at private schools. He was suppose to carry on the line of attending medical school within his family as his sister, and brothers had. Charles decided to drop out during his sophmore year at Stanford. He moved to Louisiana, where he worked on a shrimp boat. As time passed, he worked as a housepainter in the area. He lives in a double wide trailer with his wife, who works as a K mart chaser along with their three children. Due to his lack of a degree he only makes $25,000 and his parents do not visit.
Charles was born into a great family of wealth, popularity, and success.

Regardless, Charles was given a choice just like his other siblings. His brothers and sister chose to continue on the line of medical careers in the family while Charles gave up that life. He may have been exposed to a great life but it did not seem to strike his fancy. The whole of idea of being stuck in the same social class according to the "societal system" is not 100 percent valid. There is always an exception to the rules.

Diversity Week: Disability and Employment

Diversity Week:
Disability and Employment:
What you Need to Know

Overall, the research and laws regarding disability in the workforce were valid. They all hold power such as the ADAAA, which is the Americans with Disability Act Amendments Act. This act keeps all people with disabilities, who hold jobs a fair chance as this act does not allow discrimination in any way. However, the way the information was given could have been completed differently.

The speaker was like a magic eight ball, simply spitting answers out. While she spoke, she utilized a power point. In theory, it was a great tool for presenting. Despite that it was not executed successfully. Many slides had densely phrased facts and information. It was very difficult to pay attention. When making a slide the idea does need to be explained but it should be done in a list form so it is easier for the audience to read.

Another aspect that could have helped her presentation is using real life experiences. It could be of herself or someone dealing with a disability, who is willing to share their experience in the working world. When examples of people are used, a presentation comes to life. It could be a student who recently graduated, who deals with a disability in the working world. If we were to hear someones real life experiences I believe it would have made all of the audience members listen more closely.

At the beginning of the presentation, the audience was given a copy of the power point. While working through the presentation, I leafed through the power point. One slide stated "Impairments That Should Be Found to Be Substantially Limiting." The list included disabilities such as Deafness, Blindness, Mobility impairment and Intellectual Disability. Despite those, I did not see language based disorders. I found this offensive because our language can act as a barrier as much as Deafness can. It may be different but it still affects how we function in day to day life. I thought how wrong this is because there are so many language based disorders.
The Learning Disabilities Association lists 11 different disorders on the homepage of their website. Of the 11 stated disabilities is regarding to memory. It is comprised of our "working memory", "long term memory", "short term memory." If someone has an issues with all parts of our memory or even one part of their memory, the capability to store and recall information required to complete a task can be comprised.

Another statement the speaker stated that I do not exactly agree with is when to tell the possible employer of your disability. The speaker said that at pre offer of an interview you may not mention any detail regarding your disability. She continued on by saying that is okay once it is post offer before employment is over, which is when the new employee can about health related questions. I went on an interview for a Daycare center, called "Way To Grow" in the summer. In my interview with the director and owner I purposely mentioned my experience with dealing with a disorder because that was part of the reason I was applying to this specifc job. I stated how my disorder, dyslexia has allowed me to grow to see children in two different perspectives, without a disability and with a disability. The owner and director saw how my disability assisted in forming a passion for helping children. As a result, I was hired. Before I was graced with this great news, they told me that it would be a couple of days till I found out my employment status. Despite that, I checked my email that night and the owner sent me an email stating that I was being offered a position.

With every "do and don't " there are always exceptions because every career is different so each business looks at perspective employees in different angles.

" Johnson's" Privilege, Power, and Difference

Power, Privilege, and Difference
By Allan G. Johnson

Quotes:

Dictionary.com defines Power, Privilege, and Difference as....

Power means to have possession of control or command over others.

Privilege means a grant to a individual of a special right.

Difference means to be not alike in character or quality; distinct

I believe that to understand what Allan Johnson is trying to tell us, we must understand the idea of what the words, previously stated. All of these words holds a much stronger meaning, they tap the glass and breaks down what world we actually live in, the reality.

“People are tagged with other labels that point to the lowest-status group they belong to, as in "woman doctor" or "black writer," but never "white lawyer" or male senator". Any category that lowers our status relative to others' can be used to mark us; to be privileged is to go through life with the relative ease of being unmarked.”  "Allan G. Johonson"

It is so frustrating that people, specifically women are seen as the "woman lawyer" or as the "black CEO." We as people should be simply know for being that amazing lawyer, who has won many cases with great success. Or be that CEO who is respectful and does the best for his company. Our gender and race should not have anything to do with our success. If you want to be successful you have to try, from personal experience while I am working towards a certain goal I do not think how I am white. I work till I achieve my goal. I remember one day, I was home my mom called me to come watch something on ABC news. She mentioned that it was about a ballet dance, I rushed in and ended up missing the tide bi about her. However, my mom explained what it was all about. "Her name is Misty Copeland, she recently made it big in the ballet world." My mom continued on by saying how she would be performing in some shows in the month of December. She also mentioned that Misty was in a commercial about preserving to reach your goals, I needed up watching it on youtube. I was in love but my mom told me that it was not aired. I felt an uproar of emotions. I said to my mom, "she should be known for the dancer she is, not that she is a great black dancer." Misty Copeland took ballet classes because she loved ballet, this has nothing to do with her skin color. 

While i watched this, i was in awe. I remember saying to my mom, "I hope I could be a as great a dancer as Misty." What I about her is that she tries her hardest to put all of the harsh comments about her enthcity because she knows herself that it has nothing to do with her talent in dancing. 

“Male experience is what patriarchal culture uses to represent human experience, even when it is women who most often live it.” Allan G Johnson

Patriarch is defined as a person regarded as the father or founder of an order or class according to dictionary.comDictionary.com. The idea that men are in charge while women have deal with being second to the male gender is ridiculous. My mom always says that we come into this world the same way and we all leave this world the same way, so none of us are better than anyone else. Male and female are difference biologically and mentally but that is not a negative thing, it is how we were meant to be made. If we are living in the same world we should be experience our life fairly Within the idea of SCWAAMP, "M" stands for maleness. This screams how males are favored, for example they paid more for the same job a women holds simply because they are male. A women is paid 79% of what a man is paid for working at the same level. There is no legitimate reason to discriminate women in the work place finically  because of their gender.  For example, my sister went to school for civil engineering  Her school of engineering was a ratio of 3 guys to 1 girl. Since she graduated she works at General Dynamics in Groton, CT that is government established facility working nuclear engineers. In the departments she has worked in there has been two thirds male in her office. This should not matter in any regard. 

I have watched my sister work tirelessly through out the week, many filled with over time completed some successful work. While working, she has seen many male co workers slacking off, enjoying a fight of throwing food at other co workers in the office. Why are paying women only 79% of what men earn then?
At General Dynamics there has been an acceptance of women applying to the corporation as this company has been supporting women, whether of color, and decent. For there to be a change, there must be more companies standing for this as it is a different world now. 


“The public response to feminism has been ferociously defensive precisely because feminism touches such a deep nerve of truth and the denial that keeps us from it. If feminism were truly ridiculous, it would be ignored. But it isn't ridiculous, and so provokes a vigorous backlash.”  Allan G Johnson

Johnson strikes such a chord with this statement. Feminism now has so accumlated so many meanings as the world has evolved. According to Dictionary.com, feminism means "to advocate for social, political, and other rights of women that men have acquired".  While the Merriam Webster Dictionary states that feminism means, "a belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities." Dictionary.com stated like women must work for this goal of equality while Merriam Webster states it like women already have the same rights that men have. In the year, 2015 the idea of feminism is the opposite of narrow. An article done by CNN states that less women are getting married or women chose to marry later in life. It is different but I do not blame any women for the choice they make. For the longest time, women were seen as a dependent to a man. Now that we have more freedom to be on our own, many women take the chance to be single, get their masters degree, travel constantly simply because they have the opportunity. 

Personally, I love this idea. I do not live my life looking for someone depend on because being independent is amazing. You can accomplish so much on your own as you have time for yourself. I work for a mother who went to school to find a husband and have a family. She told me that it was a year after she graduated that she was married and months later was pregnant. I can remember going home in such confusion. I said to my mom how I never would consider going to school to find a husband. Going to school is something you should do for yourself, to better yourself as learner and make a happy world for yourself. This mother is almost living in movie like "The Help." Where the women would go to school and then move on to family life while the man worked outside the home. It drove me crazy. 

Emma Stone, who played as Skitter, who was the one girl who went away to school outside of the town where she grew up. She continued on to get a job at the Jackson Journal once she came back home. Her mother said, "you can write my obituary and mention that she has a daughter who is single." Skitter's mother did not understand her daughter. She was proud of skitter but could not comprehend the life she wanted, working for a paper, traveling and going beyond Jackson. Skitter's mom was a true southern women, who had a baby, had a black nanny to care for Skitter and for the whole house while she did whatever she felt she wanted to do. Skitter represented the women in the coming generations, such as myself. This character and I had the same intention to go to school beyond high school to better ourselves so we could find a great career, where we can benefit from. Skitter and I also have anther trait in common, boys. Throughout the story she has one "boyfriend"and I have few to count as well. Both my relationships and her relationship did not last because the guy wanted something completely difference; power, domaince, being a follower, and a kind of girl who wants to stop her life after making a family.